Hi,
Been
a minute, Lol!
Somehow
you would have to forgive my disappearing acts, but then I have discovered than
I am not one to just wake and churn out crappy stuff. I actually enjoy making
sense. I missed you guys, who missed me? I am grateful for everyone that keeps
messaging me to ask for my next post. You are my true inspiration.
I’ll
be talking about expectations today. Over the past few weeks, I have been
privileged to be in some amazing gatherings. Some I want to tell you about but
then I know I might not fully pass the message the way I heard it. Which will
be sad, but trust me I will try.
Why
do we expect soooooo much from everything around us??
The
world is guided by people that feel so arrogantly entitled to getting things when
they want it. Life is a gift to mankind but humans are cocky to the point where
we sleep at night and automatically expect we will wake up the next morning. Without
even stopping to think about the mechanics behind it or who/what makes it
happen.
Research
has shown that the rate of depression and suicide has increased by 50% over the
past 5 years alone. This stat puts a hamper on my mood because after thinking it
through I realized the foundation problem is “Expectations”. Why are your
expectations so high? Why do you intentionally mount pressure on people?
The
society expects the world of you, so much so that you push yourself till you
break into tiny pieces. Every parent expects their child to go to school, get
good grades, then get a good job, get married and stay responsible. As a child,
you expect your parents to always be there for you attending to your every whim,
pay your bills till you can take care of yourself and just generally set a
great example for you.
Now
the problem is nothing ever goes as planned. Then we start to feel
disappointed, which turns into resentment because expectations are premeditated
resentments. Does it now make sense why the rate of depression is so high?
So
many friendships, relationships and marriages fail because individuals fail to realize
no two persons are the exact same. Stop expecting your friend to like the same
music you like, stop arguing with your boyfriend/girlfriend because they don’t
see things the way you do. If 6 is written on a sheet, one person will see it
as 6 while another will see it as 9. No one is wrong, they just see it from different
points.
When
we realize we are not all the same, we have the power to conquer two things; -
Competition & Comparison.
The
choice is yours, do you want to continue living life hoping that people live up
to your expectation of them? Or would you rather love life by expecting nothing
and appreciating people when they do things? My take would be that you give
people the chance of being themselves around you, because…
… Peace begins when expectation ends…
